Ask Miss Meghan: Communication Breakdown

Dear Miss Meghan,

 

I’m in a relationship, and trying to figure out how to improve communication with my partner. It’s scary to ask them to talk more, and we already have some jealously/trust issues. Any advice?

 

-TalkToMe –

 

Dear TalkToMe,

This is a pretty common issue that many folks face in relationships. In my experience working with couples who present with sexual difficulties, I’d say that about 80% of the time we are actually working on communication issues. We learn to filter ourselves from saying what we really want to because we are afraid of losing the other person, pushing them away, not wanting to sound silly or be embarrassed, or we don’t trust our instincts.

I also know how hard it is to actually listen to other people talk. So that is the first step: Listen to your partner. Instead of trying to figure out what they are NOT saying, trust in what they are saying. If they aren’t saying how they feel/what they think, that is on them. Pause for five seconds (like, actually count to five in your head) before replying. This gives you both time to process and figure out a response, which is better than trying to come up with a response while the other person is still talking.

Another basic step is utilizing “I” statements. This helps with the trust issue. It does no good to blame each other, so try speaking to how YOU feel, instead of what the other person is doing that makes you feel a certain way. I recognize this feels like advice you got in second grade, but it is still valid advice.

Lastly, let’s address trust/jealousy issues. The only way to prove your commitment to a relationship is by your behavior. If you know what behaviors spark your partner’s distrust, don’t do those things. If you want to do them anyways and think your partner has no reason to not trust you for doing whatever it is you want to do, then maybe you and your partner are not in the same place and should consider finding someone else who is better suited for you. For example, maybe for you talking to an ex online just means nothing, but your current partner thinks it’s a sign that you are not emotionally committed to them. In this situation, you both have different perspectives (neither being right or wrong, just different views). If you cannot talk to reach a compromise, or if you do reach a compromise but the behaviors that support the compromise are not present, then maybe it’s not the best fit.

Try sitting down and having each of you write a definition of “being in a relationship” and a list of behaviors that go along with it: how do you behave when you are in a relationship, and how do you think the person you are in a relationship with should behave? Compare. Listen. Discuss.

 

Sinseriously,

 

Miss Meghan

Miss Meghan: Condoms, Continued

Dear Miss Meghan,

How do I choose the right condom to use?   (continued from previous article)

-Willy –

 

Dear Willy,

So, in my last article, I covered female condoms, male condoms, and why they come in different colors, flavors, and sizes. So what else do you need to know about male condoms? I would cover which brands to buy, but I realize that you all are going to go with what is cheapest, and that means free from health services (or the condom fairy). In the future when you do have to pay for them, know that some novelty condoms aren’t safe. Always choose condoms that carry the European CE or Kite mark, which is a recognized safety standard. Also, check the date on the packet as condoms don’t last forever. Yes, somewhere in the world there are a few faulty condoms floating around, but odds are it is not in your box or pocket, and unless you have some super classy friends, no one is sitting around with a needle poking holes in all of your condoms.

According to anecdotes and the “best condoms” list I’ve seen, Crown and Beyond Seven typically rate the best; however you won’t find them at CVS or Target because they come from Japan so they need to be ordered online. Durex Maximum Love and Lifestyles Ultra sensitive also make the top of the list, both of which you can find here, on campus, for free in Chance Hall (also improperly referred to by you all as the Health Center).

You can also find condoms that have studs, extra lube, or are ribbed. These options do not affect the quality of the condom, so they exist mostly for the preference of the partner.

Some myths to debunk while I have your attention:

-It is NEVER a good idea to double-bag it. Two condoms at once just create friction and will tear the latex.

-Non-latex condoms are great if you are allergic to latex, but they tend to be more permeable. So they will stop sperm, but may be less effective at stopping viruses (like HIV).

-Lastly, don’t store condoms in your wallet, purse, or pocket unless you have a carrier for it. Yes, I would prefer you use a beaten up condom than no birth control at all, but they are sensitive to light, heat, and weathering so they should be stored in a cool, dry, place. No, “cool” does not mean in the refrigerator. Room temperature will be fine.

Please remember that safe sex is better sex!

 

Sincerely keeping it classy,

 

Miss Meghan

Don’t Be Silly – Wrap Your Willy!

Dear Miss Meghan,

How do I choose the right condom to use?

-Willy –

Dear Willy,

Great question! There are many options to choose from in terms of types of condoms to use for birth control/STI protection. The two major categories are either male condoms (that are placed over the penis or phallic shaped object) or the female condom (inserted into the vaginal canal). There are also “finger condoms” that can be used to cover the hand when engaging in digital penetration (digits as in hands, not digital as in your cell phone).

The female condom is great for anyone who finds a male condom too restrictive around the penis or for folks whose partner does not want to wear a male condom. They are lubricated on both the inside and out and create a barrier between the vaginal canal and the inserted object. It is safe to use a water-based lubricant with a female condom. They work by trapping the semen from entering past the female’s cervix. Female condoms should not be used for anal penetration because you risk having the female condom “sucked” into the anal cavity and that just can’t be fun to remove.

Male condoms come in a huge variety of shapes, sizes, colors, flavors, and materials and are used to cover the penis or a shared sex toy for penetration of the mouth, vagina, or anus. Colored condoms only exist to make penises look “prettier” in my opinion, and do not affect the effectiveness or type of sexual activity that can be done with them. Sometimes, I think people just want to see what their penis looks like when it glows in the dark, which, if I had a penis, I would probably want to see at some point in my life.

Flavored condoms should be used for oral sex, and should not be used for vaginal or anal sex. The flavoring typically comes from a sugar based flavored lubricant, which can throw off the pH balance of the vagina or anal canal. If you are using a flavored condom for oral sex and then transition to another type of penetration, you should give the genital area a wipe down first with water to reduce the risk of a yeast infection or UTI.

As for size of a male condom, length matters less than width of the condom. If a condom does not unroll all the way to the base of the penis, you need a longer condom. However, most condoms are made long enough. As for width, you want the condom to fit snug and be a bit tight around the penis without cutting off circulation. If a condom is at all loose on the penis, you increase the risk of tearing the surface resulting in improper use. This means that, for a good percentage of men, thinking that you need to use a magnum because it is looser actually increases your risk for breakage.

Stay tuned for the second part in this series to learn about choosing the correct brand for you, what types to stay away from, and de-bunking some myths (like how many students here think lifestyles break easily).

Seriously sincere,

Miss Meghan

Miss Meghan – "Whiskey Dick" Got You Down? Sober Up!

Dear Miss Meghan,

What are the effects of alcohol on sexual functioning?

-Flaccid for Now-

Dear Flaccid for Now,

I was going to attempt to write this article without using the words “whiskey dick” but after some serious urban dictionary time, I’ve realized that: there are too many terms that include the word flaccid, I am better off using the language I know, and who comes up with these terms? Will The Point News even allow me to use the word “whiskey dick?” [Ed. note: I think we should!]

Anyways, back to the topic. For most folks of any/all sexes, one or two drinks of alcohol will not have a significant affect on one’s ability to obtain a physiological state of sexual arousal. Many folks find that a drink or two reduces sexual inhibitions. The exception to this is if you are on any medications or are combining alcohol with other drugs/substances as they can interact and can cause sexual difficulties. For example, many anti-depressants can affect sexual functioning.

Once you hit three or more drinks in your system, depending on time between drinks and body weight, the alcohol has caused your blood to thin (also a good reason not to get a tattoo when you’ve been drinking). For male-bodied folks, erections occur because the canals in your penis swell, which traps blood in the penis making it firm. If the blood is thinned, it can not be trapped in the penis, causing a failure to obtain an erection.

For female-bodied folks, sexual arousal is caused by the swelling of the vulva which causes blood to get trapped into the vagina canal triggering vaginal lubrication. With alcohol in the system, females have a more difficult time obtaining vaginal lubrication and a state of genital arousal.

Alcohol also slows down your brain’s processing of stimulation, so the sensations of nerve endings in the penis or vulva are not processed by the brain as well as they are when alcohol is not present in the system. It takes firmer stimulation to the surfaces of the genitals to obtain the sensation of pleasure and orgasms are reported to be less intense with alcohol consumption. For women, lack of vaginal lubrication can led to increase tearing or pain during penetration and increases the risk for contracting a sexual transmitted infection. Also, if a condom is not adequately lubricated, it increases the chances of having the condom rip.

Consent for sexual activities also needs to be noted here, as consuming too much alcohol can leave a person unable to give consent. It is imperative that you know how much your partner has had to drink and if they are capable of consenting prior to engaging in any sexual activities with them. Just wait until they sober up to find out if they want to get down.

Writing this really shows the need for a socially standardized term that is the female equivalent of “whiskey dick.” Any thoughts? Don’t forget to write in with your questions for me! They can be submitted via email to me at mkroot@smcm.edu. [Second Ed. Note: we need to find out where the anonymous submission box online went.]

 

Sincerely Craving a Shamrock Shake,

Miss Meghan

 

Dear Miss Meghan…

Hi Miss Meghan,

I’m a virgin and it is not that I don’t want to have sex but the longer I do not have sex the harder it gets. I get nervous that my lack of inexperience will turn boys off. Quite the catch-22. How can I get this to change?

-Cherrie

 

Dear Cherrie-

Most of the members of humanity are sexual beings; as in engaging in sexual acts has some biological/instinctual bases that equip us with the skills we need to accomplish the various acts of sex, and gain some pleasure out of it. I would say that you probably have some level of sexual skills, even thought you still carry your “V-card.” The way to reduce that anxiety is to increase your skill and confidence levels.

There are two ways to reduce that anxiety. The less recommended, scarier, but more time efficient method, is the “sink or swim.” The theory is that if you are scared of a drowning, go swimming. Facing the fear that you will be perceived as sexually inexperienced by having sex will help you realize that you are not perceived that way. This method has some risk thought, in that odds are that you won’t drown, but you would probably already be swimming if there wasn’t some chance of drowning.

Therefore, I would recommend the “test the waters” method. Do little things that may still make you nervous, but that are more likely to boost your confidence. Start talking to men folk and see what they think (as in, “I have a friend who is a virgin and…”). Talk to female folk about their past sexual experiences and how they gained sexual confidence.

Do some self-exploration and figure out what areas of your body you get pleasure from. Do you enjoy a light touch here, but a rough touch here, every where a touch touch? Your virginity status is significantly less important during sexual acts than your ability to tell a partner what and how you like it. Change your focus from the fear of potentially turning a boy off to teaching him how to turn you on. Each person has different things that turn then on and off, so being comfortable enough with some to have that conversation is a great place to aim for before engaging in any sexual acts with them. If your goal is to turn your partner on and your partner’s goal is to turn you on, and you teach each other the most effective ways of doing that, then the odds of swimming (and swimming well) are significantly higher.

Also try swimming, but with floaties. Learn to get your face wet, learn the different swimming strokes, learn how to come up for air (have I taken this analogy to far yet?).

Most importantly: yes it is normal to feel some anxiety about engaging is sexual acts for the first time. However, if you are feeling pressured into it, don’t think you are ready, or just want to wait, that is a healthy and ok choice.

Sinseriously,

Miss Meghan

 

Ask Miss Meghan: What’s (Not) Up With E.D.?

Dear Miss Meghan,

I was hooking up with someone last weekend and I couldn’t perform. This is not the first time this has happened. Do I need to see a doctor or get Viagra?

-Down and Out

 

Dear Down and Out,

Erectile Dysfunction, especially in folks under the age of 60 who do not have a pre-existing medical condition, is typically a psychological issue. In laymen’s terms, it may be performance anxiety. One lost erection, whether due to alcohol, lack of sleep, stress, feeling dejected, or a lack of desire, can trigger a fear of it happening again.

If this fear takes root in your brain the next time you try to get aroused, then your focus is the fear, not the pleasure and aroused feelings that typically trigger an erection. Once this cycle starts, it can be difficult to break. Taking a pill can actually help perpetuate this cycle as well.

Plenty of folks lose or can’t get an erection at times and it is VERY NORMAL.  Both men and women struggle with arousal at times and it is important to listen to your body.

If a penis is not erect or a vagina is not swelling or lubricating, it may be your body telling you that having sex right now isn’t the best idea. If you try to force arousal, either by taking Viagra, using a pump, or over stimulating the area, you can cause trauma to the genitals which can make the next encounter even less enjoyable, and in some cases painful.

I know we live in a highly masculine society that pokes (ha, pokes) fun at men who can’t “perform” and perpetuates the stereotype that you are “less of a man” if not at full attention when the time comes and it can be difficult to acknowledge out loud a problem regarding one’s “manhood.” That we even refer to the penis as the place of ones “manhood” keeps the stereotype going.

We also have a medicalization of sexuality, which gives the impression that sexual performance can be fixed by taking a little blue pill.

If you are have difficulty, you absolutely should talk to your doctor and get a full assessment of any physical issues that may be contributing. Sadly, however, doctors frequently don’t assess about any mental or emotional issues playing into arousal and just write a script for Viagra.

This does not address the underlying issues and can create long-term health issues with circulation and blood flow. This is also true for folks who take it for recreational purposes who want a longer lasting erection. When it comes time when you actually need a pill to help get an erection, it might not work. Plus, there are risks associated with taking it that you need to be aware of.

I suggest going to talk to a therapist. You MAY have a sex therapist who works on this campus in the counseling center (oohhh, I wonder who? Hint: her name starts with Me) who can assess for, and help with, any mental barriers that may have developed.

It can be a difficult thing to talk about with friends or family so talking to a therapist along with a doctor is a great idea, prior to or while taking a supplement.

Sincerely tooting my own horn in the last paragraph,

Miss Meghan

 

Sexpert Tells All On Sex

“I’m gonna grab your hair and hope this works out.” Much of the attitude at the Sex Therapy 101 lecture given by our very own “Sexpert,” Meghan Root, was created by such evocative statements.

In college, however, what better way to grab someone’s attention than make a sex joke?

The lecture, part of Safe Sex Week, was riddled with fascinating information that ranged from different forms of treatment for sex-related issues to different paraphilias.

In addition, Root covered issues concerning the LGBT QIA community and sexual identity. Root even cover what it is like to treat someone with an issue like pedophilia.

Root used the “Circles of Sexuality” from Advocates for Youth as her base model during the forum.

The “Circles of Sexuality” is a system based on five different forms of sexuality: sensuality, intimacy, sexual identity, sexual health and reproduction, and sexualization.

“These circles,” Root said, “make up the majority of our sexual experiences.”

She later went on to talk about our sexuality changes as we grow older and how our “response cycle changes” as we experience new pains, pleasures, or just learn about our likes and dislikes.

The tone of the lecture created a confortable environment for the material, important considering the taboo nature of many of the things Root discussed.

Advocacy and acceptance of difference provided a common theme throughout the lecture. “People are allowed to like weird things,” said Root. “If you can find a girl who likes to sit on balloons, good for you.”

The students in attendance generally responded to the lecture positively. Sophomore Taylor Sturm attended the lecture since Sex Therapy is something she is interested in.

“It’s important to talk about sexual health and well-being and being fulfilled sexually. I think it’s a topic that’s shied  away from,” Sturm said.

“I think it’s something that people of all ages and from different backgrounds can benefit from.”

Juniors Amanda Pazouki and Andrew Llewelyn shared Sturm’s sentiments. “People learn about it in high school, but they really have to figure it out on their own,” Llewelyn said.

Pazouki said, “It’s an awkward topic. No one wants to talk about it. It’s hush-hush.” She added, however,“It think it’s fun because it’s so awkward.”

Despite the awkwardness of talking about sex, let alone therapy for problems related to sex, it doesn’t seem to hold Root back. “I don’t like children because they get up early and I don’t like old people… what do I like? Sex.”

Ask Miss Meghan: Are Condoms Really That Effective?

Dear Miss Meghan,
My friends and I were wondering if you could settle a debate for us: How effective are condoms really? The package says they are 98 percent effective, but we’ve heard a lot of stories about people getting pregnant or STIs even when a condom is used.
-Jimmy

Dear Jimmy,

I’m going to answer your question assuming that you are talking about male condoms, if that is okay with you. The answer to your debate over battle hats is that condoms are only as effective as the persons using it.

The wonderful folks who make condoms have a certain standard that they have to maintain in order to distribute their product here in the USA, and I’d wager that no one is sitting around the factory poking holes in every few just for fun (lets chalk that one up to urban legend).

Most latex condoms are 98 percent effective against pregnancy, and highly reduce the risk of transmitting an STI, but that assumes you do everything 100 percent correctly, every time.

Yes, correct condom use is more than just putting it on. The first step is to make sure the condom is not expired. Second, you want to make sure that you are using the correct size. Penises come in all shapes and sizes.

If you have condom that is too big or too small, it can slip off or reduce circulation and/or pleasure. Length of the penis is less an issue than width (with a shorter penis, just do not unroll the condom all the way). Plenty of websites have explanations of how to find your correct condom size.

One of my favorites is condomania.com/TheyFit. TheyFit is actually a custom line of condoms, and from the site you can print off a measuring tool that gauges width and length. The TheyFit brand can be pricey, but if you call Condommania they can recommend mainstream brands that are similar in size.

Once you have found the correct size, and are sure that the condom you are using isn’t expired (and that there are no holes or tears in the package), you want to put it on the (erect) penis before it gets anywhere near your partner’s genital area. Pre-cum can contain semen, so if gets near the vaginal opening or on the outside of the condom, there is a higher risk of pregnancy.

When putting a condom on, you want to leave a bit of room at the tip, so it is helpful to squeeze the tip (getting any air out as well) as you roll it down all the way to the base of the penis. Lubricated condoms can be slippery fellas, so use two hands, or have your partner help.

Once it is on, there are still a few more things to do to ensure proper usage. If at any point it slips off or rips, put a new one on (again, because of pre-cum). Finally, when done, you need to hold onto the base of the condom while you are pulling it out, and then take it off.

If you take all these steps, every time, then condoms are 98 percent effective. Research has provided us with a “typical use” rate of pregnancy which is around 86 percent (a 14 percent chance of pregnancy).

If you do not use any type of birth control over, there is an 85 percent chance of pregnancy, so I think that, even without perfect use, your odds are much better with a condom than without.

If you want to know more about condoms, other birth control, STIs, or other sex related questions, stop by the Campus Center the week of February 7th-11th where we will be tabling for Safer Sex week with demonstrations, sex jeopardy, condom roses, and Ask-a-Nurse.

Also Love Lines will be held Wednesday, February 9th at 8pm in Cole Cinema and don’t miss the Vagina Monologues.

Happy Safer Sex week ya’ll!

Sincerely Safer,
Miss Meghan

Miss Meghan: No One Deserves Abuse

Dear Miss Meghan,
I’ve been seeing someone casually for about a month but when he’s drunk he turns into a different person. He gets really aggressive and he’ll pin me down or block the door and I don’t ever say no to him because I want him to like me. Sometimes I don’t have the chance to tell him to stop because it happens so fast. I really like him and I don’t want him to think I’m prude or anything but sometimes I wake up with bruises I can’t account for. How can I get him to stop acting like that?

Dear Bruised and Battered,

YOU DESERVE BETTER! Sadly, we can not control, fix, save, or change someone else without that person’s help or desire to change. It would be nice if we could, and a lot of people certainly try, but there is nothing you can do to stop someone else from acting a certain way. Being drunk is not an excuse to physically (and emotionally) harm you.

I so get not wanting to push him away and that, at times, he has admirable traits that make him attractive or caring or endearing. Or that when he apologizes (does he apologize?) he can be vulnerable or open. However, those moments do not, and can not, make up for the moments where he is violent (physically, but it also sounds like he is sexually, violent towards you).

When he is being sexually and/or physically violent towards you, he is not seeing the wonderful person that you are, or how much you deserve to be treated like an actual human being. He is objectifying, de-humanizing, disrespecting, de-valuing, and/or manipulating you.

The fact that you don’t even have time to tell him stop implies that he does not care enough to take the time to ask you what you want. His actions seem selfish. It seems like sexual assault. It seems like you are not giving your consent.

So I ask, if he gets to act selfishly, why don’t you? Why don’t you get the right to get your needs met a.k.a. the need to not be physically harmed by someone, or the right to personal physical and sexual safety?

Reading your letter, the advocate in me wants to yell “PRUDE? Since when did not wanting to have sex with someone because they are hurting you become a bad thing?” It breaks my heart that women still have to hear terms like “prude, slut, whore, tease, etc” from men, and other women, for making healthy choices about when and where and with whom they want to have sex.

It is not your fault that this has happened, but you can do something to make it stop. Please contact the Counseling Center or reach out to 1−800−799−SAFE(7233), the National Domestic Violence 24/7 hotline. If you are in immediate danger, please contact Public Safety at x4911.

Also, my contest for the best pick-up lines/ways to ask for consent to engage in sex play is still open (as it seems we still have some work to do about what consent is). Prizes will be given for the best submissions and I’ve gotten some really good, some bad, and some hilarious ones so far, so send me a quick email with your one liners to mkroot@smcm.edu!

Sincerely tried and tired,
-Miss Meghan

I ♥ Female Orgasm Entertains, Educates on How to Get Off

Jocelyn Benson co-led the program that presented clear, positive messages about female orgasm and sexuality. Part of the program focused on media messages about female orgasm. (Photo by Katie Henry)
Jocelyn Benson co-led the program that presented clear, positive messages about female orgasm and sexuality. Part of the program focused on media messages about female orgasm. (Photo by Katie Henry)
Crowds of excited, chattering students crowed together to fill in corners, aisles, laps, and arms of chairs on Oct. 14 to learn about the beliefs concerning, different types of, and ways to have a female orgasm for the program I ♥ Female Orgasm.

The program was led by Marshall Miller and Jocelyn Benson, who travel around the country giving presentations on sexual health. Their goal is to make sure people have access to good health information, so that if someone chooses to engage in sexual activity it can be a positive and fulfilling experience.

Benson and Miller were very open in speaking about sexuality and the female orgasm.

Benson began with a personal anecdote about her early sexual experiences and how they were unfulfilling because she had trouble finding clear information on how to have sex.

The presenters discussed how popular magazines have some information about orgasms and sex, but can create distorted ideas about sex, such as how your face looks while you orgasm or the importance of simultaneous orgasms.

They said that magazines were a little better than sex education in schools in providing usable information about sex. Miller gave the example that in sex-ed you learn about fallopian tubes but you “don’t learn about how sex works.”

These programs also leave out important information about female anatomy, most clearly visible in the dearth of information on the clitoris.

Benson and Miller then said that another problem is people’s views on physical appearance and the ‘right’ way to have sex and that mainstream porn has a lot to do with it.

People get ideas about how their body should look; Benson said, “if your va-jay-jay has a little personality, there is nothing abnormal about you.”

The program continued by touching on what students had learned about masturbation; in order to counter these mostly negative views on female orgasm, they covered the merits of orgasms and masturbation for women.

It can help relieve menstrual cramps, relieve stress and headaches, and help you fall asleep.Then, with diagrams and instructions, the audience learned how women can have an orgasm.

The arousal cycle was discussed, covering how many women reach the plateau stage of arousal, which can last a long time. However, that “is not a sign that you’re broken,” said Benson.

Marshall said, “By age fifteen, only about half of women have had an orgasm,” but most men have had an orgasm by the same age.

Jocelyn said, “When you ask women their fastest and easiest way to orgasm, the most common answer is masturbation … [but] if you ask about their favorite way, the most common answer is oral sex.”

This led into a discussion of women having orgasms with partners. Marshall said “only about 30% of women can have an orgasm from intercourse alone.” They stated that women can and like to touch themselves or have their partners touch them during intercourse.

One important aspect of having orgasms is dialogue with a partner and finding out what feels good.

Close to the end of the program, Benson and Miller broached the mystery of the G-spot. They said it is a bundle of nerves, 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the side closest to the navel and is more sensitive in some women.

In order to stimulate the G-spot, Benson said fingers can be used, specific G-spot sex toys, or even curved vegetables (though be sure to wash and put a condom on them).

Women can also ejaculate by stimulating the G-spot. It presses on the urethral sponge, which produces a fluid (that is not urine) that can be released during orgasm.
The sensation before orgasm may feel like a strong urge to urinate.

After a review of all these different types of orgasms, Benson said, “each orgasm is unique, like a snowflake.” Practicing Kegels was also covered as a way to have stronger orgasms and for men to have multiple orgasms.

One can strengthen the pubococcygeus (PC) muscle by flexing the muscle that one uses to stop the flow of urine midstream; this muscle can be flexed while not peeing also. Miller said, “You can do Kegels in math class!”

The program ended with tips to help women have and improve their orgasms. Benson said that women should start by trying to have orgasms through masturbation. “Befriend your body,… befriend your vulva,…touch yourself experimentally and keep touching,” try using vibrators and fantasies. She said if women kept trying they would be “like the little engine that could have orgasms.”

Student attendees said they enjoyed the program. Senior Hillary Powell said, “It was helpful and useful and a lot of good advice.” Junior Lex Consenze, said it gave “a lot of good resources. It was a good way to get to know about the stuff without it being awkward.”

The Co-Presidents of Feminists United for Sexual Equality (FUSE) also were very pleased with the event. Junior Johanna Galat said, “Way more people came than I expected.”

Senior Sarah Shipley was also pleased by the wide variety of students and said that the resource sheets handed out at the event were available in the Womyn’s Center, located in the basement of Queen Anne Hall near the laundry room, where FUSE meets every Monday at 9 p.m.